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Domestic Abuse

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse and violence currently affects approximately 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men at some point in their life. On average 2 women each week are murdered by their partner or ex-partner. Domestic abuse and violence can occur between parents/carers, couples in same sex relationships and between young people, regardless of their ethnicity, gender, religion, race, sexuality, class, or disability.

Domestic Abuse also includes other forms of abuse such as female genital mutilation (FGM), forced marriage (FM), and ‘honour’ based violence (HBV), that are perpetrated primarily by family members, and often with multiple perpetrators.

The Home Office defines domestic violence as:

'Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse:

  • Psychological and/or emotional abuse
  • Physical abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Financial abuse
  • Harassment
  • Online or digital abuse
  • Coercive Control

What is controlling behaviour?

Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.

Remember - it doesn't have to be violent to be considered abusive behaviour!

What is coercive behavior?

Coercive behavior is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

What is Emotional & Psychological Abuse?

  • Emotional and psychological abuse can include:
  • Name calling
  • forced to stay away from friends and family
  • feeling isolated
  • forced to stay at home
  • not allowed access to mobile phone
  • having mobile phone constantly screened
  • no access to internet
  • not allowed to work
  • being monitored all of the time 

What is financial abuse?

  • Access to bank accounts being withheld
  • Money being controlled in terms of how much you can have and when
  • prevented from working and earning own money
  • abuser running up debt in survivor's name
  • prevented from being part of decision making relating to purchasing items or other financial decisions

What is physical abuse?

  • Hit
  • Punched
  • Slapped
  • Kicked
  • Restrained
  • Tied up
  • Burnt
  • drowned
  • Pinched
  • Strangled
  • Suffocated
  • Stabbed
  • Hair pulling
  • Hit with objects e.g. sauce pan, telephone, remote control, knives, forks, spoons, plates, etc. 

What is sexual abuse?

  • Forced or coerced to engage in sexual acts (this could be with a partner, ex-partner or third party)
  • Forced or coerced to have sexual events filmed or photographed
  • Forced or coerced to into pregnancy
  • Forced not to use contraception
  • Kept pregnant
  • Intentionally given sexually transmitted diseases 

 

Remember - it doesn't have to be violent to be considered abusive behaviour!