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How to keep safe

It is important that you complete safety planing whether you are staying in the relationship, fleeing the relationship or have already ended the relationship.

Safety planning

If you are planning to stay in your relationship then it is important that you stay safe.

  • If an argument occurs, try and move to a space where it is low risk. Try to avoid the bathroom, garage and kitchen.
  • Be prepared to call 999 during an incident. Keep your phone fully charged and on you at all times if possible.
  • Identify a code word in which you can use with your children for them to contact 999 or alert for help.
  • If possible, identify one or more neighbours or friends which you can tell about what is going on– so they are able to call for help if they hear a disturbance from your home
  • If safe to do so, start to put important documents for yourself and any children you may away in a safe place. Important documents can include: Passport, birth Certificate, Driver’s License, National Insurance Number, Credit cards/ any additional financial information.
  • Place important items/ essentials in a safe place packed away so you are able to pick these up in a hurry. A safe place may also be a friends/relatives house. Important items/essentials may include: Medication, keys, emergency money, pictures and sentimental items, several changes of clothes for you and any children and basic toiletries.
  • Identify a safe place where you can go to. This may be by approaching housing providers to discuss housing options.
  • Change your mobile phone number and only give out your new mobile number to people you trust.
  • If you have remained in the property of where the perpetrator lived or the perpetrator has discovered your new address, ask the domestic abuse officer at Ashfield District Council to make a referral for you The Sanctuary Scheme. This will enable to appropriate safety measures to be put into place for your property.
  • If the perpetrator is aware of your daily routine for example, which route you take any children to school or the route you take to go to work– consider taking different routes so the perpetrator is not aware.
  • If the perpetrator is aware of any up and coming appointments you have, re-schedule the appointments if possible.
  • Obtain legal advice regarding obtaining a restraining order/ non molestation order or any other orders against the perpetrator to maximise your safety.